Last week I turned 38.
I know it sounds like such a cliche but had someone told me on my 37th birthday that my life would look like it does now, by my 38th birthday, I would never have believed them.
This time last year I was a single gal, living with her gorgeous little man, working full time managing a financial planning office and working my way through a life coaching diploma. I was enjoying my life and was doing my best to embrace where I was at and focus on the amazing friends, family and experiences that I did have. But there was definitely a part of me that yearned for more. I was grateful for my day job in that it had allowed me to survive financially and to support my son and I, but my soul was desperately missing doing work that I was passionate about, that challenged me, and where I felt that I was truly making a difference in the world. In addition to my desire for more career wise, what was also missing was someone to share my life with. After a good 4-5 years of essentially being on my own, I was well and truly ready to meet ‘my person’ – but where the hell was he?
Fast forward a year and you could say that my world looks entirely different. I have found ‘my person’ and we are living together happily with my son. Our little family of 3 will, in 6 months time, become a family of 4 when we welcome another little man into our world. I have been running my life coaching business alongside my full time job now for about 10 months and have been blessed to work with some amazing clients. In one months time I will be finishing up in my day job to focus on myself, my baby, my family and my coaching business (Oh, and my gorgeous man and I are soon to embark on the ultimate ‘Babymoon’ to the Maldives, a place I never dreamed I’d be lucky enough to travel to).
From the outside, it could look like all of this just dropped in my lap quickly and easily, like some kind of fairytale. There is no doubt that some days I have to pinch myself to check that this is real because I can hardly believe that I could feel this happy. BUT it most definitely did not come easily or overnight. It has been the culmination of so much work on my behalf to get myself where I am today. Or, as one of my good friends put it, I truly dug deep, did the work and am now reaping the rewards of undoing all the shit.
And that really is the key to how I have taken myself from where I was (in a depressed, dark and hopeless place) to where I am now. I did the work that I needed to do on and for myself, got clear as to exactly what I wanted to bring into my life and truly, truly started to believe that I deserved happiness, joy and good things.
I’m sharing this part of my story for a couple of reasons. Firstly, so that my readers can come along on the journey with me – because stuff is about to change big time (and I didn’t just want to appear in 6 months time with a new baby out of nowhere)! Secondly, I’m telling it to give anyone who needs it, a sense of hope. When I was going through those years of struggle and hardship it was other people’s stories of transformation and making it through tough, tough times that helped me the most and inspired me to keep going.
If you are in a place of struggle, hardship or transformation please know that you aren’t alone and that things can and will change. Regardless of what dream you have or how stuck you may feel, you can change things if you are willing to do the work, get clear on what you want and believe in your heart that you deserve it.
If I can do it, I know you can too.